Mama's Boy

So last night I'm finally able to sit down, relax, and read my bible.....Essence Magazine. This month, the cover features the fabulosity that is Black Hollywood -- Kerry Washington, Ruby Dee, Jennifer Hudson etc. -- and as per usual it is so wonderful to see the young and old of Black Hollywood making history and shot callin. So I'm flippin through my pages, hittin my haler-lu-jahs, deciding to try this new hair style knowin damn well it won't look nothing like the picture, and thankin Essence for the tips when I get to a page with a nice lookin black man and the title, "I'm A Mama's Boy"...... This man is a grown man. He makes six figures, owns his own company, and he loves his mama...whom he tells everything and looks to for sound advice. On paper, the man sounds like he is most certainly worthy of a third, fourth, and then realizing your toothbrush is straight chillin in his bathroom date. But then this man proceeds to say that one woman he was dating while in college was a real contender in his eyes but then he brought her to a wedding and his mother noticed that she reached for the dessert. You see, his then girlfriend, was a bit overweight. His mother works out all the time and eats well, and pulled her son to the side to tell him that he couldn't be with this woman because of her weight. The grown man agreed. Then there was another woman who seemed to have everything going on for her except the mother told her son that she wouldn't be able to take care of a household because she couldn't cook or clean. The grown man agreed. There was another woman who truly could have been the one BUT one weekend, he was supposed to be going with his girlfriend to Atlantic City or some place but his mother wanted him to take her somewhere. This nucca told the girlfriend a lie so he could take his mother where she needed to go. This man has let go of women, who before his mother pointed out their 'flaws', he thought were great. But he said that his mother is able to see things that he can't and that is why he listens to her. Hence why he is still single. See, this is when all I can do is shake my head. WHY?! Being a listening ear and being there for your child doesn't always mean you need to make decisions for them. And at what point do MEN grow the fuck up and take what their mother says in stride but still decide for themselves?! And did I fail to mention that his mother was divorced and the son is her only child? These are always the ones that try to make their sons their boyfriends. Black women, as we know, tend to put their little black boys on pedastals and treat them as Kings not realizing how that is going to be such a huge factor in how these little black boys grow up to be men who still act like little black boys and how it weighs on any future relationship they have. I am beyond allergic to Mama's Boys. Like, I've been there and done that and I can't ever again. At first it seems so wonderful that a man would adore his mother and then you find out he can't take a shit unless his mother wipes his ass! Hell to da naw!! I want a MAN who respects, loves, and take cares of his mother BUT knows how to respect, love, and take care of me too! You can do both without having to put one before the other or sacrifcing either relationship....and why should the thought of even having to put one before the other even come into play? They are two totally different relationships! All that to say, you mamas can keep your boys.